Jack and Ian,
For a long time I was a part of a religion which hijacked my intuition, anxiety, and emotions in general - and which sought to make me believe that various feelings were signs from God. They taught that negative emotions - especially those of unease, discomfort, and a sense of dissonance were warnings from God to avoid certain actions etc. For a long time I fully believed these untruths. Looking back I wonder how many potential opportunities were wasted because of it.
I bring it up because on the eve of starting my new employment, I'm hit by wave after wave of anxiety and unease. The feelings aren't tied to any specific action or fear, they're just general negative feelings. I struggle with regressing into believing that I've made a horrible mistake and that something horrible is going to happen because I decided to pursue new, safer employment.
Normal people, at least people who didn't have their emotions constantly hijacked, tend to have coping mechanisms to nullify these feelings. While not all do, I've found a healthy amount seem to be extra resilient feeling ill at ease when there are no obvious triggers or reasons to be so. How do they fight those feelings so much more easily than I do?
I think it's like a metaphorical wound in one's psyche. We have all been wounded in ways that make us susceptible to unease. While some of use continually reopen the wound, leaving it raw and hurting, others know enough to be able move on or have the capability ignore it - causing a scab to form. I think too, that much like children growing older, they've learned that there's only so much pain when one scrapes their proverbial knee, and that the pain soon passes.
I need to invest in some better bandages.